Deep within Bethelsdorp resides Dorothy Koening, a woman firmly rooted in the belief that no matter what life presents, family comes first.
This principle, instilled by her mother, Hetta Witbooi, has remained a guiding force for Dorothy and her five siblings.
Despite the passing of her mother and three siblings, Dorothy continues to embody this lesson in her everyday life.
Dorothy’s older sister, Delene Witbooi, is believed to be the oldest person living with dwarfism in Gqeberha, at 83.
Raised by their single mother after the early death of their father, John Witbooi, the six siblings maintained a close-knit relationship.
Even though Delene was physically different due to dwarfism, she never felt excluded.
“Our mother was very loving and caring and made it a point to always encourage us to be supportive of each other, and stand up for each other, because we are one,” Dorothy explained, as Delene nodded and smiled in agreement.
Delene’s communication is hindered by hearing and vision impairments, yet she retains a strong connection with Dorothy.
After their mother’s passing in 1987, Delene lived with Dorothy until 2000, before moving in with their older sister, Hettie Holmes, who then also passed on in 2015.
“Now, I have been her primary caregiver again since then – ten years this year,” 74-year-old Dorothy said.
A retired schoolteacher, Dorothy manages a meticulous household, ensuring everything is neatly arranged. Delene, given her age and build, enjoys a special spot in the living room, providing pleasant views and breezes.
“When I have to go somewhere, which is not often because I really don’t like leaving my home, I lay out my sister’s food so that she can access it easily,” Dorothy shared.
Her husband offers support where possible, although his own health issues limit his involvement. “He has not been very well lately and he cannot stand for long periods of time, so I don’t like him being out of bed for too long.”
Despite making it appear effortless, the responsibility of being a primary caregiver to both her sister and husband is not without its hurdles.
“It can be quite challenging. For instance, Delene does not have a wheelchair; she uses only her crutch to get around and it’s difficult,” Dorothy admitted. “She is also permanently on pull-ups, which are not cheap. Every month she spends R920 on them, apart from toiletries and other essentials; it’s really expensive.”
Dorothy added that transporting Delene to the clinic in Gelvandale often requires hiring a car.
“Thankfully, sometimes we don’t get charged,” she remarked.
Delene takes medication for hypertension and diabetes, and recently, she’s been experiencing joint pain, which Dorothy suspects is arthritis.
“She’s been complaining about feeling pain in her hands, feet and joints.”
Despite these challenges, Delene remains cheerful and positive.
“She is honestly such a pleasure, and more than anything, I am very grateful to God for the gift of life. Both my life and the long life He has given my sister, even though she is living with dwarfism. To wake up every morning, open your eyes, and have another opportunity to live is a blessing I never want to take for granted. I’m also grateful for every single responsibility God has entrusted me with. I embrace it all.”
Through their steadfast love and support, Dorothy Koening and her sister Delene honour their mother’s teachings, demonstrating the enduring impact of family unity, compassion, and resilience.
“I always say to everyone I encounter, that when you place everything in God’s hands, you truly see big things. That is exactly what I did with all my children and grandchildren as well. I placed their lives in the hands of God and thanked Him for trusting me with such a great work.
“Now, all of them are big and, I’ve got some really brilliant grandchildren – with the books and sport!” the proud granny concluded.
For more information, contact Dorothy at 068 434 0877.
